beyond consequences

You have to change the pattern, in the moment, in that emotional state. ___________ You have to get to what is real in your life because if you don't your children will do it for you! ____________ Violence is the easiest way to find significance and attention. ____________ Disappointment creates drive if you don't let it destroy you. ____________ You gotta go deeper -- to the bone marrow of the soul. ____________ Your children need you to know you're awesome so they can then rediscover their awesomeness that was lost. ____________ Learning is the creation of a relationship. ____________ Whatever you focus on, you feel. (Stop focusing only on the negative.) ____________ Just be yourself and be there. ____________ Strong relationships are built by being vulnerable. ____________ Authenticity builds trust. ____________ If children can't get attention  in a positive way, they'll get  it in a negative way. ____________ Love need to mater more than respect. ____________ If you show up for your child in a different state, he can only be different. ____________ When you are in a loving state, you automatically do the right thing. ____________ Your children are not their behavior. ____________ The limits we experience are the limits  we impose on ourselves... we are  the ones who create them. ____________ Perfection is the lowest  standard any human can have. ____________ Your children are begging you  to break down your walls  so they can break down theirs. ____________ You have to understand the power and potential of problems. ____________